Short List of Fetishes for Beginners

Dictionary definition of a fetish:

1.   a form of sexual desire in which gratification is strongly linked to a particular object or activity or a part of the body other than the sexual organs:

"a man with a fetish for surgical masks"

"a foot fetish"

·        an excessive and irrational devotion or commitment to a particular thing:

"the western fetish for all things North African"

2.   an inanimate object worshipped for its imaginary magical powers or because it is thought to be inhabited by a spirit.

 

Dictionary definition of abuse:

1: a corrupt practice or custom

the buying of votes and other election abuses

2: improper or excessive use or treatment : 

drug abuse

3: language that condemns or vilifies usually unjustly, intemperately, and angrily

verbal abuse

a term of abuse

4: physical maltreatment

child abuse

sexual abuse

5: to use excessively

abuse alcohol

6: to use or treat so as to injure or damage : 

abused his wife

 

Never forget the difference between exercising your fetishes and abusing your partner!

 

Let us begin by saying we all have some sort of fetish. You may not think so, but you worship inanimate objects. It is subconscious but we all do it. I have certain coffee cups that I like to use in the morning. I am unhappy when they are not available. Think about yours for a minute, something you could live without but do not want to.

 

Let us think about sexual fetishes.

Not to be confused with a fantasy which you can in your mind during sex or masturbating, a fetish is something that needs to be present during sex to allow the participant to become aroused. Let us say you like tattooed women. It is no good shutting your eyes and pretending she has tattoos. You are going to need to be able to see them. Now people may be quite open about their fetish and discuss them openly with their friends or colleagues while others may be very private and only bring it up with a partner that they can feel comfortable with. A fetish is something you should only undertake with a mutually consenting partner who is not anxious or uneasy about it.

 

What are the most popular fetishes?

Filming yourself having sex.

With technology in the palm of our hand, it is easier than ever to film ourselves having sex which is why it is becoming so much more popular. You do not have to go through the whole rigmarole of setting up a video camera when you have a smartphone to hand. Just be careful where these videos end up.

Foot fetish

An oldie but still a popular fetish with many, who like to touch feet, lick them, suck toes and have them rubbed down their back with or without stockings or heels.

Rubber or latex

People appreciate catsuits, gloves, and masks for their texture, tight fit, or unique scent.

Spanking

OK, so there is an erotic reason for this rather than just the standard control and domination and that is that if you get the spank in the right place, there is an erogenous zone where the buttock meets the thighs.

 

Water sports

No, we do not mean water skiing, paddle boarding, or surfing, we are referring to the water sports otherwise known as golden showers or urination during sex to give it a more ‘polite’ term. Water sports are the term for peeing on your sexual partner. There are several reasons why it is much more popular than people might expect, whether it is the scent, the sensation, or simply watching someone else do it.

Swinging

Swinging or group sex refers to one couple with another couple who switch partners. It has a bit of a reputation for being a scenario where you all meet and put your car keys in a bowl in the middle of a table!

Exhibitionism

Some get off on the thought of being observed and there are niche fetishes or activities within this like dogging or having sex at a window or even just somewhere outdoors where there is a thrill of getting caught and they are only interested in dating someone that can agree to understand and partake in their fetish.

There are so many sexual fetishes, some far more extreme and unusual than others. Some are safe, while others pose risks. Always be sexually careful and use protection and never undertake anything with which you are not comfortable. Equally, if you are not afraid to try something new.